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Great Relationships take work…

…but what shall we work on?

Want to develop the skills for success in your most important relationships?

Great relationships take work

…but what shall we work on?

Want to develop the skills for success in your most important relationships?

All relationships face a similar set of hurdles.

Success comes from being equipped to get over them.

Want to develop the skills for success in your most important relationships?
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Four habits
is all it takes...

That’s the lesson from more than 20 years of working with countless couples & individuals. Every successful relationship exhibits them. Every failing relationship we’ve ever seen has lacked one or more of them.

Want to improve your Relationship Skills in general?

Want to improve your Couple-Relationship?

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For anyone who wants to improve their relationship skills and enjoy healthy relationships, we recommend four simple steps to developing these 4 simple habits.

Step 1

Recognise Why you are
where you are…

ALL relationships face a similar set of hurdles.

Success comes from being able to get over the hurdles smoothly.

The 4 Habits equip you to get over the hurdles.

Step 1

Recognise Why you are
where you are…

ALL relationships face a similar set of hurdles.

Success comes from being able to get over the hurdles smoothly.

The 4 Habits equip you to get over the hurdles.

Step 2

Understand WHAT you can do to improve things

We all have “Emotional Bank Accounts” – that track every interaction we have with people around us.

Good interactions register as DEPOSITS.  Bad ones feel like WITHDRAWALS.

The “net balance” reflects the how you feel in each relationship.

Success in relationships comes from knowing how to reduce unintentional WITHDRAWALS and make DEPOSITS.

Step 2

Understand WHAT you can do to improve things

We all have “Emotional Bank Accounts” – that track every interaction we have with people around us.

Good interactions make DEPOSITS.  Bad ones feel like WITHDRAWALS.

The “net balance” reflects how you feel in each relationship.

Success comes from knowing how to reduce unintentional WITHDRAWALS and make DEPOSITS.

Step 3

Learn HOW the 4 Habits can help improve your Emotional Bank Accounts.

Reduce Withdrawals

  • #1 – BE CURIOUS, not critical
  • #2 – BE CAREFUL, not crushing

Make Deposits

  • #3 – ASK, don’t assume
  • #4 – CONNECT, b4 you correct

Step 3

Learn HOW The 4 Habits can help improve your Emotional Bank Accounts.

Reduce Withdrawals

  • #1 – BE CURIOUS, not critical
  • #2 – BE CAREFUL, not crushing

Make Deposits

  • #3 – ASK, don’t assume
  • #4 – CONNECT, b4 you correct
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Practising these 4 habits regularly
will transform your relationships

Not doing so, could cost you dearly.

Step 4

Master The 4 Habits

Step 4

Master The 4 Habits

Step 4

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